We have threads for when we are happy, sad, angry, in love or hurt by love, so why not having one for when you can't make up your mind about something (since it's how I feel most of the time, and when I have to make a decision I'm in panic)
when you are confused...
when you're just tormenting yourdelf over something and can't find a way out..
or when you don't know what to do, be it a trifle or a great matter.

I feel very confused and about different things... what's distressing me most (and with most urgency) at this time is University. I'm thinking about changing all the time.. and the more time passes the worse it all gets

Lolle confuses me. Else i think everything else is pretty much clear.

Yep.
have confusions all the time. it makes my life a living hell.
friends ask you for you're help, on diff problems,and they think that you have answer when you don't.

may i say Lisa just hang in there. it will hopfully be over soon.

Im confusedd tooo =(
Let go or try to hold on?
Bahh
Letting go would mean forever, but in a way it would be a good thing.. and then holding on would mean more confusion but id still have him, and i could love him and try to be happy again..
but then apparently i have to change, and trust and not be paranoid
but thats hard too..

Ughh
im really confused and cannot make my mind up

I am confused cause of this.......

I think Life is confusing. And you have a point there natalie.
But things in life are hard. You always have to make a hard decisen - my spellings off today forgive me - in life and sometimes you never make the right ones. Then you feel bad. But life is a test is it not? We have to choose everyday. One thing or another no matter what it is.

Good point DQ.

Also confused right now. Confusion and worry really. Don't know what's gonna happen after the holidays.

I dont know what will happen tomorrow... Is it gonna be a better day?

I was trying my best to make a good point I hoped it worked.

No one knows what's going to happen after the Holidays. No one knows what will happen tomorrow. But.. You are the ones who choose to make your day better or worse. Your the ones who make you out come of the day. No one choose for you you choose yourself.

Now I hope that ones a good point and not a buch of bull.

confuseda s to whether i should say i'm ready or not.. cuz i am.. i really really am.. but it feels early, seems soon.. tho it doesn't matter anymore to ME.. what about the second party of this decision.. i dunno.. i'm torn on this

My relationships are confused. Maybe I make something wrong. The “relations” are better with people on the Internet, you know… But I can't be online frequently... So, that's bad!
I’m confused of my thoughts sometimes. I’m confused often. I try really to do not be, because it only takes me one step back from where I am… Did I write nonsense? Tell, if I do write empty things.
I’m confused right now. My story begins with my love. I love her, but she never trusted me. She said that she gave me a chance, but she said it after she left me with hug. So, I do not know, if anyone will ever read this. But would you be confused, if your beloved say:” I love you!”? And after some time blame you for all and say with the softest words: “I leave you!”? Please, don’t get it wrong. I’m NOT her victim. I’m just so confused of my fragile and complicated things… Kind of comic, how I got tragic, yeah!

I'm in a quandary; I've just started 'getting back in the Mainstream' after being in mourning for almost 3 years. I've always hated dating! Any serious relationship I've ever had has been the result of a chance meeting, and since I'm by no means 'desperate', I figure if it's meant to happen, it will.

Anyhow, I'd been asked out by several guys, but up until a week ago no one had, well, 'tripped-my-trigger'. That is to say that there just hasn't been that spark of interest generated. UNTIL: I met this one person who was sooooo very nice, very mature, intelligent, had a great sense of humor, and wasn't hard to look at (at all!). We were at a party and I'd never met him before, but we ended up talking for hours! Yep! There was that old spark.

He asked me out and I accepted. Then, before the 'big night' arrived, one of my friends called me and told me something that kind of shook me up. Turns out this guy is a LOT younger than I thought! He sure as hell doesn't look his age! I went out with him anyway and had a seriously GREAT time!

Now I'm getting a lot of negative criticism from friends and family about 'robbing the cradle' and how I should really start dating someone closer to my age. The sad thing is, we really like each other, have fun together, enjoy each other's company, and have a lot in common.

He's called me every day (usually 2-4 times a day) and wants to see me again, but now I'm not sure what to do. He's more than 10 years younger than I, but really doesn't seem like it. We're still at that stage of getting to know one another, but I can see all the warning signs that this could develop into something more than just a friendship. If I let it.

I think it's sad that my family & friends seem to put such restrictions on relationships, and that they're putting such pressure on me not to see this guy again. Is it just in America that people have such small minds regarding age and age differences? Or are there countries where nobody gives a damn how old two people are (as long as they're not hurting anyone else?)??

If there is a country out there where nobody gives a damn about such things, then I think it's time I relocate!!!

I think it's a quite common thing that "the man is older than the woman" in relationships.
I didn't think in USA it was considered a problem (because whenever this topic is discuussed in some talk-show, they always say that there are many American actresses who have younger men... ok: this might seem unrelated to "real" life, but I just meant to say that: I thought in America this wasn't such a great problem)

There are some girls/women I know who have younger boyfriends/husbands. The reaction of people around is... usually not negative.
Sometimes it's seen as something to "gossip about", but what isn't?
Then there are also people who somehow disapprove, but I guess it has more to do with people than with the country: there are always those who are more close-minded.

It's sad that your family&friends are against this story only because of the age difference; and it'd be sad if you stopped seeing him only for that reason (the story might work or not like every story starting.. but this has nothing to do with age)
For what it's worth, I'd tell you not to let the age difference be a problem: if it's not to you and to him... then what does it matter?

I truly wish you best luck, Dia, with al my heart

I think that the fact that you are older than he is, isn't really the problem as much as the age difference... I dated a guy who was ten years older than me two years ago, and nobody really liked it. But I liked him, so I continued seeing him, and when my family and friends saw I was happy with him, they couldn't really protest anymore. So I say: just let it happen if you both think it could work out. In my case it didn't, but I still learned a lot in those nine months it lasted and although I was the one to 'dump' him, I'm really glad for the time I spent with him.

I'm confused as hell! I just broke up with my bf, and I still don't know whether I made the right decision.. but on the other hand, I manage pretty well without him.. school's not going well, but we've just started a couple of new classes so new chances

Thanks for the encouraging words Lisa & Ashmira. I guess only time will tell.

Right now I'm standing on a crossroad. The future could be quite drastic: heaven or hell. Unfortunately I could do so little about it. Or I could just step away, but this is not a solution for me. Sorry for being so unclear, but I don't think somebody should take my problems...

Best luck to you all!

You could pick heaven, but you do not know... which road leads to it. It looks like quite a difficult situation. I hope you will succeed... whatever you have to deal with, Whisper.

Trying to decide whether I should speak out to someone or should I just keep my mouth shut. I'm just hesitating about the epic fail that'll most likely happen if I open my mouth.

Maybe I'll just a flip a coin.... until I get the result that I want, lol.

Right now the things are going to the opposite direction, and the worst haven't started yet. Today was a very awful day for me. I must stop hoping for good and accept the fact I'm a LOSER!

that's EXACTLY what I was about to write here.

and Whisper .. don't be so hard on yourself .. you ain't no loser.. even if it sometimes feels that way =/

We all lose and win... Don't give up! We are with you. If you need help, just say that... And you know... Maybe tomorrow is a better day...

..not a good time for 'Smile! Tomorrow will be worse' ?

anyways.. good luck to all of you
troubles are crap, I've had plenty of them, mostly about boy-stuff.. and school.. and dia: I don't know you very well, neither do I know/remember how old you are, but you seem young at heart and if that guy is pretty mature, I think age is no boundary. you seem to really like eachother, but.. don't get into uh.. 'stuff' too fast.. you know what I mean. him calling you so many times a day.. it'd frighten me honestly. then again I don't know how the 'relationship' between you two is..